We are at odds with each other over upsizing the frontier.
Today she called a local RV dealer, to get some clarity (her reason for calling them, they aren't trying to sell a vehicle, they have no skin in the game) on payload, towing capacity, etc. Trying to educate herself, KUDO's to her for that !
She told them about our vehicle and trailer. Not any sticker or scale numbers, just a frontier and a 19' camper.
Their response?
Payload only matters if your putting a lot of firewood and such in the bed of the truck, or for a fifth wheel. They continued with saying that, we are perfectly fine with this combination, and if your husband says you aren't, he's simply wanting a newer\bigger truck.